Your LIFE in your HANDS

This is the first time a story(a parable told by my Marketing Manager around 12 years back) influenced me so much that I try and follow it in every turn I take.

It goes like this - Once there was a great sage whom everyone in the village looked upto and went for advice, he was never wrong with his predictions . One day a naughty boy decided to prove to the villagers that the sage was fake, so taking a little worm in his hand he approached the sage and in front of everyone he asked the sage , what was there in his hand . The sage replied that it was a worm , to which the boy immediately asked him whether it was dead or alive. "it is in your hands" said the sage . The boy was shocked as he did not expect the sage to know that he planned to crush the worm if the sage said it was alive and vice versa.The sage then said , just like your life which is in your hands either you can kill it or set it free.

As in the story it is up to us to set ourselves free to achieve our goals or crush our aspiration , dreams, for whatever reasons and blame life for not being fair to us. The road is there its up to us to walk on it or shun it , so what if no one has tried it , so what if people feel its a waste , AFTER ALL ITS YOUR LIFE AND ONCE YOU TAKE IT IN YOUR HANDS , HAPPINESS WILL FOLLOW. YOUR DECISION IS YOUR RESPONSIBILITY . CHOICES ARE MANY CHOOSE THEM CAREFULLY.

A Tribute to the lost lives

A TRIBUTE TO THE LOST LIVES
U know what pain is , maybe the one’s who faced the spray of bullets last year same day can tell us better, the tears in the eyes of their loved one’s who face the cruelty of life each day can tell us better,
The heart of every true Indian hurts to know that though each one was witness to the gory event(seen on tv) still our law wants tospend time and money on conducting trial of the Great Kasab who was party to this horrifying massacre.
Everyone proudly says Mumbai bounced back immediately , India does not go down after the terror attack, I find it disgusting I don’t think it is something great it is just our Indian upbringing to accept everything, adjust and live with injustice. Attacks have been borne with great strength by our forefathers , atleast they fought back . But we bear with great inner strength , fight back yes …. And how … by just adjusting and living our routine life style.

But what else can we the common man do …. When the Governtment doesn’t support…. But just watch and read that themurderer of our brothers is being treated as a guest in the country which he tried to ruin.
Or can we really do something ……………………………………………………………………………………………..
If the fire inside me could come out it would burn everyone who tried to spoil her in anyway but then as that is not possible , all I can do for now is just these few words.

Dont Worry , Your Baby will be fine

Dont worry your bud will blossom well, just imagine it blooming and it will.
This for all those would be mommies who are pregnant and those who are undergoing infertility treatment.
Its just a brief phase of my life which was the most terrible as well as the most beautiful part of my life which I would love to share with you.
I underwent infertility treatment for almost 4 years it was terrible both mentally and physically I took my tablets and injections sincerely, but I failed to do one thing that was most important that was have a positive attitude, all through I kept fearing that I would not be able to bear a child (instead of hoping that the treatment would do me good and it would be successfull). It was the end of my 4 th year that my husband decided to end all treatment as by that time I had become a nervous wreck , and he kept telling me day and night that I would have a baby only if I wanted to have one desperately and the feeling should be so desperate that i should be able to imagine being with the baby almost hear it cry, it might sound crazy but thats what I did and you won't beleive it I did get pregnant in six months time . It wasnt easy , its never easy, specially to imagine that you will have a kid when you have almost a zoo ( from cysts ,fibroids, endometriosis ,blocked tube ,etc ) in your uterus and at a time when you have stopped treatment. I am not sure whether my earlier treatment had worked wonders late or whether it was one of the months which is suited for fertility but I do know it worked because of my positive attitude.
My joy knew no bounds when my pregnancy test was positive but it was shortlived because I started bleeding within an hour of the test I ran from doctor to doctor , they all suggested that I should let go of my baby and they assured me that I would get pregnant immidiately. But I desperately wanted to have him I thought God had given me one chance and I would not let go off so easily , I managed to convince one doctor to put me on injections (hormones steriods, whatever), but i'm not giving up on my child , My husband stood by me at all times. I had bleeding ,severe back pain and stomach pain through out my pregnancy , could only drink coconut water and soup throughtout my pregnancy (had severe vomiting and cough if I had anything else). I had reached a stage when I asked my doctor if she would take out my baby , so that we could take better care once it is outside and I was not sure if I would make it to the ninth month (well whatever we think only that happens) , and the during my seventh month I had complications and the baby was out.
Our misery did not stop there , I could not see the baby properly because I was suffering from severe pneumonia (the doctors could not diagonise it and I was treated for UTI to viral fever and the fever was always at 107 C) its difficult to breathe ,to think, to walk , to talk with pneumonia. As luck would have it my mother and my sister were sick at the same time so they could be there with me as often as they wanted too, and it was upto my poor husband again to take care of me and the baby, my boy got some infection so he had to have almost 4 to 5 injections per day , the doctors had no hopes for me and my son. But my husband never gave up hope , he along with the help of nurses took care of me and my son for almost a month (he was on leave) and finally the doctors diagonised the correct disease and we were out the hospital after a month , though my son had to keep going for injections to the hospital , it was better than being in it. Things were not very bright for him , I had to keep him warm throughout , we always had to keep the light on day and night , (he was only 1.25 kgs) but then positive attitude kept us going (call it whatever you want God's blessing or a positive mind ) and in 3 months time my son could stop his injections and he increased in weight and became one chubby child .
Now Manas is almost 4 years and we are glad we went through hell to have him, now we see heaven in his smiles his voice, his naughtiness.
So all you troubled would be mummies out there dont get worried or frustrated if I could have a kid, i'm sure despite the problems you all will have healthy kids too , but dont forget your attitude, don't forget to smile and dance your worries away.
:)

Grumpy ?

Choose your attitude.
why wait for your problems to go away
when you can dance your worries away.
SO SMILE GRUMPY

click for Bri - wishing her a speedy recovery

This is an appeal on behalf of a group of food bloggers who are friends of Briana Brownlow @ Figs With Bri.

Bri was diagnosed with breast cancer two and half years ago. A mastectomy, chemotherapy and two years of relatively good health later, the cancer is back. It has metastasized to other parts of her body. At the age of 15, Bri lost her 41-year old mother to the disease. Now, she’s waging her own war against breast cancer. More about it here.

The team organising the JUNE edition of CLICK at Jugalbandi has organised a fundraiserto help Bri and her family meet her out-of-pocket medical costs for ONE YEAR.CLICK is a monthly theme-based photography contest hosted by Jugalbandi. This month’s theme is: YELLOW for Bri
Yellow is the colour of hope. Through the work of the LiveStrong Foundation, it has also come to signify the fight against cancer.
The entries can be viewed HERE. The deadline for entries is June 30, 2008. The fundraiser will extend until July 15, 2008.
The target amount is 12,000 U.S. dollars. We appeal to our fellow bloggers and readers to help us achieve this. Bri deserves a chance to explore all options, even if her insurance company thinks otherwise.
There’s a raffle with exciting prizes on offer. After viewing the list, you may make your donation HERE or at the Chip-In button on any participating site.
Your donation can be made securely through credit card or Pay Pal and goes directly to Bri’s account.
This month’s photo contest also has some prizes. Details HERE.
You can support this campaign by donating to the fundraiser, by participating in CLICK: the photo event, and by publicising this campaign.

Life - an open road

As I started out today on my scooter in a thoughtful mood, kept looking at the rearview mirror so that I could drive safely , then i realised life is so similar to this we keep checking in our past to help us to go correctly in the future. But to much of looking in the rearview mirror is also a problem as we might bang into someone ahead of us. In the same way living in the past can do us no good, but checking back to see that the same mistakes are not repeated is a different thing.
Just as the vehicles slow down at a traffic signal in the same way it is essential to slow down in life at times even though the urge to go fast may push you , its worth the wait.
When a vehicle overtakes you and when anger gets the better of you to be faster than him, then its time to clear your head because both of you could get into trouble, so in life to healthy competition is good and but jealousy never did anyone good.
When you feel tired and feel like giving up you still push your self to drive home 'cos there is no stopping on the road, this holds good for our life as well .Think and you will acheive, its all in your mind and your body will support it.
Well if you think all this is too much of a sermon remember healthy life style doesnt just mean good diet and exercises but without healthy mind there is nothing to be be got.
So walk on the road of life with a positive attitude and you will see your dreams become your reality.

SMILE THE SMILE

KEEP SMILING
I CAUGHT A SMILE TODAY QUITE UNAWARE , I STARTED WITH A FROWN BUT WHEN I TOOK A TURN,
I SAW THE LITTLE SMILE WHICH MY FACE TOOK TOO AT ONCE ,
I TOOK THE NEXT TURN , AND THEN I REALISED THE SMILE SMILED BACK AT ME ON ANOTHER ONE'S FACE.
SO THAT'S THE WAY IT GOES THE SMILE KEEPS MOVING ONCE ITS ON THE GO.
SO LETS HELP IT MOVE , LETS HELP IT GROW NOT JUST AMONG NATIONS BUT AMONG WORLDS NOT KNOWN.
LETS SPREAD THE SMILE TO BRIGHTEN UP LIVES WE MEET AND PEOPLE WE GREET.